For an alcoholic, that same drink flips a switch. Cravings begin immediately, the brain ‘lights up’, and stopping feels close to impossible.
Explaining to his followers on Instagram, Stewart – who goes by alastairclearminds on the platform – said: “A normal drinker thinks, ‘If I drink, fine. If I don’t, that’s fine too’.
“An alcoholic is already planning – how much money they need, where they’ll buy more if supplies run out, and excuses to justify it. The night hasn’t started, but their mind is already consumed.”
When life gets tough, the contrast becomes even clearer – a normal drinker might talk things through, cry, or try to find a solution. An alcoholic reaches for the bottle first.
“It becomes their medicine, their coping mechanism, their escape – but it only deepens the pain they’re running from,” he continued.
Then comes the morning after. Stewart explained how a normal drinker might wake up groggy, laugh it off, and move on with their day, but an alcoholic often wakes up heavy with guilt, shame and regret, promising themselves it won’t happen again – that is, until the craving returns, and the cycle repeats.
The final difference, he says, is the constant mental negotiation.
“A normal drinker doesn’t think about alcohol outside of the moment,” the recovering alcoholic explained.
“An alcoholic wakes up thinking, ‘When can I drink?’ They go to bed thinking, ‘Tomorrow will be different.’ Their mind is constantly negotiating, hiding, and planning around alcohol.
“The difference isn’t about how much is in the glass – it’s about the pain, obsession, and mental prison that hides behind the drink. That’s what most people never see.”